Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Montessori in the Home is For You, Too

Sometimes I read about other Montessori families and I feel totally incapable of being a real Montessori family. There seems to be a lot to know, a lot to change, and it’s just a lot, okay?

Gosh, most of the time I’m pretty happy if both of my kids end the day dressed.

So, let’s get one thing straight.

I’m inadequate when it comes to Montessori parenting. I know about twenty percent of what I hope to know about it all someday.

But I am trying, and I am faking it till I make it.

I hope that makes you feel like you can give it your best effort, too. Even if you absolutely will not be perfect or know it all.

Here’s What I Don’t Know

Jerome’s bed is on the floor. If you asked me why, I could not really tell you why. It’s just something Montessori tends to support.

I know he is in all kinds of sensitive periods right now, and I think it has something to do with small objects, know it has to do with language, and hope he is, in fact, at the right place for potty learning.

I have activities placed neatly on the shelves, and I know they are pretty to look at. I also know that, most days, he only touches the books.

I know how important practical life activities are, but have to admit it is painfully difficult to train myself to let him wash the table, the dishes, or help with meals because he is two and his efforts are messy. Not to even mention the inevitable "over helping”, the meltdowns, the misunderstandings.

Montessori purists do not even discipline their children, as this is extrinsic motivation for good behaviour as opposed to the recommended intrinsic motivation.

But, let me tell you how difficult it is for me to handle my two-year-old kicking the baby and sneaking cookies with creative solutions which offer intrinsic motivation.

Sigh. It makes me tired just thinking about it.

But I Believe In Montessori and I’m Committed, People

I truly believe Jerome is an exceptionally clever child and that he is neither mischievous nor terrible.

 He is smart and receptive, and I see that my efforts to incorporate Montessori in our home are allowing him to thrive. Especially as far as independence and meaningful activities are involved.

Though there is much I do not know, what I do know makes me a better parent, and helps our home to be more peaceful.

This is what makes me keep forging forward. This is what makes me want to share Montessori with everyone I meet.

No, what I share does not come from a trained Montessorian, and my methods are not tried. I am honestly just a mom taking it one day at a time, reading as much on Montessori as I can (especially on blogs like the Kavanaugh Report and How We Montessori), and loving everything I have come to understand.

My mission for this blog is to share what I learn, making Montessori just a little more approachable for moms who are like me. Because Montessori seems to have an aura of mystery about it, a sense of aloofness, if you may, and it is my intent to change that.

It will take a huge commitment from me, and from you, but I truly believe it will be worth it in the end.

If you would like to know what to do next read this post on how to make your home more Montessori and this one on 5 Ways to Set Up a Shelf.

Thank you so much for reading!

If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to contact me. And if you are interested in following along in our daily adventures, follow us on Instagram where I post daily.

God bless,
Olivia Fischer

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